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When golfing whether you use woods or irons can be applied to how you go through life.

If you tee off and use woods: You probably are a risk taker.  You like to get ahead quickly and don’t take the steady approach.  When the yardage says lay up you try to go for it all.  You have a great time working your way out of long grass, sand traps, or behind trees.

If you tee off and use irons: You prefer a slow steady predictable approach.  You would rather keep on hitting it straight that go for one big shot.  It is more beneficial for you to sacrifice some yardage for a predictable shot.


If I had to guess in my life I would be more of a person that would use woods.  I prefer to take chances and go for the big one than the slow and steady approach.  But every time I golf I tee off with my 3 or driving iron.  I hit it straight most of the time and never shoot great but never awful. 

As I sit back and think about why I golf the way I do I wonder if I golf the opposite I am in life.  I hope that is the case, but maybe your golf game shows more about you than you want to realize?

Are you a risky golfer?

Do you take risks in life?

Is there any connection between the two?


I have played in a few golf tournaments in the last couple of months.  It is interesting to me how many good golfers are at these events.  I am always asking people at these events how much they golf.  Then after they tell me how ever many times a week I usually do a yearly calculation and figure out how many hours that ends up being.  If you golf 9 holes 2 times a week from May until September that is 80 hours in a summer.  That is probably minimum for most avid golfers.  Man, that is a lot of time. 

I am not saying golfing is wrong or you shouldn’t do it.  I just always like to look at what I could have done with my time.  That is 80 hours I could have spent with my wife and kid, or exercised, or read 5 books.

Golfing for many is relaxing and for me it can be also.  I understand that if you are good at something that you want to keep doing it.  That may be the reason that I don’t enjoy golfing as much.  I am always amazed by the good golfers that I golf with.  But after the round it always leads me to what could have been done with all that time?

Today I am taking a staycation.  I could have gone up to the lakes but decided to start off the vacation at home.  Home can be very relaxing as long as you keep some boundaries of what you should and shouldn’t do.  This summer I have had weekend “vacations” but I have not felt rejuvenated.  So this time we are going with a different approach.  I needed some boundaries and guidelines for my staycation. 

Rules for Staycation:

  1. No doing any outside work.  Not mowing the lawn, pulling weeds, or any other thing of that matter.
  2. Keep the cooking to a minimum.  It is alright to cook breakfast and maybe some veggies for lunch.  You should be relaxing and ordering pizza or going out to eat for lunch and supper though.
  3. You must watch movies.  Get your movies ahead of time and find time to relax and enjoy them.
  4. Read many different things.  I have read business magazines, blogs, sports, and other books.  Relax and just read. 
  5. Relish the time with Spouse and Kids.  I have enjoyed spending time with my wife and also taking care of my little girl in the morning when she is most happy.
  6. Turn your cell phone and home phone off.  I did answer one or two calls earlier but have since decided you don’t answer your phone on vacation.
  7. Sleep in and take naps.  Enough said.

These are my staycation rules.  They probably will be changed but this is my first staycation. 

What would be your staycations rules?

Have you every got home from work and couldn’t remember what you did all day?  You look back and feel like you didn’t accomplish anything at all?

This happened to me the other day so I decided to take control of my days.  I decided to write down everything I did for the exact amount of time.  It took quite a bit of extra time but it was well worth it.

This is what I learned from keeping track of what I did:

  1. I spend a lot of time talking to people and should not view this as wasting time.
  2. I realized that I waste a lot of time going off on little bunny trails instead of staying on one project until completion. 
  3. I realized what percentage of my time I spent on things throughout the day.
  4. I realized if I made a list before I started the day and prioritized it I would be a lot more productive.
  5. I wasted less time looking on the internet and wasting time doing other things.

Try it for a week.  Keep track of what you do for a week then calculate where you spend your time.  Once you figure out the numbers figure out where you should be spending your time and adjust what you do and how you do it.

As a leader you need to constantly be aware of where you are spending your time.

Jonathon Mead had a great post on Zen Habits on “How to stop acting like such a big baby.”

It really hit home because the other day I had a day full of complaints.  I was feeling bad for myself and complaining about a bunch of things.  I felt depressed, burned out, and tired of the grind. 

Why all of a sudden did this happen?

I went down the complaining slide.  You know how it is when you go down a slide.  It starts off kind of slow and as you keep going it gets faster and faster.  That is exactly how complaining works.  Once you start your mind keeps going and going and going.  It doesn’t want to stop because it get some kind of adrenaline rush from complaining.  And it takes too much effort to get your mind out of it because you are lazy and enjoy it too much.

How do you combat this?

Take a day and do the following

  • Write down every complaint you make for the day.  You will be amazed how negative you can be.
  • Write down if any can be solved right now or in the near future.
  • Write down or do a positive action to combat that complaint.

The thing with complaining is that you need to be aware of when you are complaining because most of the time you are not. 

The first step to overcoming any shortcoming is being aware that it is there.

For more on complaining check this website out.

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